Monday, February 13, 2012

I. And. Love. And. You

As seen from previous years, I am a big fan of Valentine's Day. In fact, it's my 2nd favorite holiday (Christmas still takes the cake on that). Why do I love such a day? As you role your eyes and feel a bitter distaste, please know it has nothing to do with having a Valentine. In short, my top 3 favorite reasons for this fabulous day are...

1) 20 years ago, I was in Bakersfield, CA, curled up on the couch, in Little Mermaid pajamas, watching Fantasia. Not even 4 years old, I was anxious and eager for a phone call that would change my life. Late in the evening, as roses bloomed and chocolates were devoured, a beautiful, brown eyed boy entered this world. King George, commonly know as Silas Nathaniel, graced us with his presence and I became a big sister. Since that day, every February 14th marked another year I was blessed to have such a character in my life. Tomahawks, Power Rangers, Star Wars and Guitars- the boy's interests ranged in topic but always cared for with extreme desire. Today, the King resides in the land of Ducks where every day I am more proud to be his sister. At the caboose of a big family, expectations run deep while responsibility lies thin. Torn between a rebellious teen and wise man, George has taken his college opportunity far beyond I ever could. I still remember that night he was born- so plump and frail and yet filled with endless potential.

2) Slight change of tone... but I am a sap for Valentine's memorabilia. In my room, I have candy boutiques, cards and letters just waiting to be delivered. It's like Christmas where I can't wait to sneak out and decorate the house so when everyone wakes up they are blessed with reds and pinks and simple shaped hearts. I even made homemade peanut butter cups (thanks Pinterest!) and decorated them with red sparkles. How can you not love the glorious ensemble of red, pink and white? And don't even get me started on the wonder of Conversation hearts...

3. Love. Hopeless Romantic. Yes, that is me. I grew up watching and daydreaming about the greatest love stories. Ranging from Father of the Bride, Serendipity, When Harry Met Sally, Beauty and the Beast and Love Actually to name a few, I have always known love comes in different shapes, sizes, colors and times. It's indescribable and the most comforting, blissful feeling in the world. I believe you should fall in love with as many things as you can (Gwyneth in Country Strong also agrees). I am in love with the seasons, the stars, the cool air and the warm, Friday nights and Sunday mornings, brunch and early supper, cuddling and swooning, independence and book stores, ice cream and eggplant, kisses and flowers. I am in love with my family and friends, the new and the old, the unforeseen and forgotten. I am madly, deeply in love with a boy who gives me full blown butterflies and wholehearted kisses. In the chaos of it all, I am in love with life. And so here's to a day to celebrate it all. A love for whatever you feel- whether it's a person, place or thing, and a day to embrace a feeling we are so unique to have.

Sunday, January 29, 2012

Break The Window So You Can Breathe

A month in and I can honestly say there has been major progress since I last confessed. Minimal yet major. It's the little things that are beginning to add up.

In this moving process, I have been endlessly blessed with help and guidance from friends on all levels. What surprises me the most is that people are actually willing to assist me. Friends of friends of the 6th degree separation have reached out and volunteered their knowledge and their networks leaving me with a continue hope to make this real.

Imagine taking a nail and slightly taping it into a glass window. It doesn't completely shatter or break- it cracks and spiderwebs into an unclear image. After last week's endeavors, the upcoming future has shown a sneak peak. A little noise from the break and a big push from the possibility presented. Of course, it's all still in the making. The window is simply beginning to fall out. I can't see what's ahead but the tiny slits have leaked a breathe of fresh air.

And I must say I am looking forward to more cracks in the window.

Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Dream Big

Needless to say, with all the magical commotion my life has held, my thoughts have been scattered and endless for this past month. Between sister getting engaged, Christmas with boyfriend's family and New Years with the besties, 2012 arrived faster than I imagined and suddenly I feel everything is set up before my eyes. This will be a big year- I will successfully change jobs (hello new year resolution), we will move to New York City, I will visit my grandparents in Texas, travel home multiple times, turn 24 (which I am actually very excited for) and complete my 366 degree project with my best friend Jenna (curious? This is our blog and y'all can check it out! http://366degreesofyou.tumblr.com/ ). Oh and, of course, I'll leave room for the unpredictably predictable unknown cause we know it's coming.

As someone who loves being organized and creating lists, New Year Resolutions are my fav but I call them goals and I actually do them. They're realistic, they're silly yet simple and typically come in even numbers. My ten for 2012 include reading more (so many books and yet only one pair of eyes), staying happy & healthy, finding a job where I enjoy at least one out of the five days (yes my standards are that low due to my current situation), completing the previously mentioned 366 project and others involve saving and running and moving and going home more and sending snail mail. It's day 3 and I'm 10 for 10 if that's such a possibility.

I must say I go back and forth from being worried to excited to anxious to curious to lost to happy to some unknown abyss in my mind when I think about the next two months. There are many things I am not ready for. I'm not ready to leave my friends, the family that has so graciously accepted me as their own and the warm, tough Boston layer I've grown. I'm not ready to live in a big unknown city with an unknown job in a current unknown apartment. I suppose the only think I am ready for is the challenge. Embracing the fear and truly believing that it will all work out. And this time, when I pack it all up and start another chapter, I get my best friend/soul mate/boyfriend/other half to join me. So in the end- it can't be that bad... right?

On a final scattered note, I recently heard a quote and so I leave you with the peace it has brought me...

"If your dreams do not scare you, they are not big enough"

Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Sometimes I Get A Good Feeling

And just like that, we're heading into the final stretch of the year. December is a sweet reminder that we save the best for last. December is the most wonderful time of the year filled with blessings, happiness, magic and joy as we forget our troubles and wrap our bodies and minds in the glorious holiday season.

The holiday season, of course, begins with Thanksgiving and an annual short but always fabulous trip home. My 4 days in California were filled to the brim and left nothing but a sweet taste in my heart and soul. Surrounded by good people and good times, I was able to see old friends, best friends, high school kids, Valentinos, Rossis and Buckleys from far and near while spending countless hours in the hot tub soaking in the family gossip. My first Thanksgiving with actual turkey (in 6 years) along with the dreadful 3 hour time difference, left me exhausted each night as a I sank into California dreams stowed in my childhood bedroom.

Each visit home, I find my relationships altering and growing in the most fascinating of ways. With my parents, it continues to blossom into some magical and near utopian. They're my best friends, we're equals, we share secrets and advice, we laugh, we cry, we're honest and even take our stress on the world out on each other (not always a good thing but we grow from this too). At the end of the day, I have nothing but pure love and respect for them and aspire to be even an ounce of a person that they are. The inspiration from family continues on to my incredible siblings. From married life to college life, running miles and creating miracles, these individuals continue to be my heroes. Filled with a determination to succeed and blinded by any of life's challenges, these fellows take life head on and greet each day with endless laughter. Thousands of miles away, it's hard to believe I am anything like them but I hope some of their wonder and sparkle trails to the east.

It is, of course, always hard to leave the sunny, golden state. SFO, so sterile and concrete, is hard to arrive at and turn my back on my roots. Somehow, though, every time, I get back on that plane. I head east to this life I've created and I greet it with a smile. Passenger pick-up always awaits the love of my life (how spoiled am I that boyfriend always gets me!!!) and Boston, without hesitation or question, opens her arms yet again.

As we head into this final chapter of the year, I am reminded of the magic and wonder this season provides. Family, friends, cheer and bliss, there are so many things to be thankful for. Eagerly I await our trip to NYC for Christmas in full swing, holiday parties and Yankee swaps, another lovely holiday with boyfriend's family and did I mention it's been in the 60's and actually, dare I say, warmer than California? However, the snow can fall whenever it pleases as I will stay warm in the comfort of this euphoric celebration.

(Some dolls at our Family Turkey Trot! 5k/10k aka shredding machines)

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Delightful Obsessions

Technically I think the term, state or feeling of obsess, obsessed or obsession contains quite the negative connotation. Its notorious definition seems to be an undesired emotion filled with sinful behavior. Well, sorry to all the dictionary sites I googled, but I am currently obsessed with all fully desired emotions and thoughts that lack nothing but fabulousness.

My current sinless obsessions... shall begin with the golden fall that has spread across Boston like warm butter on gluten-free bread seeping into New England's pores. I am struck by the beauty as I take my morning walks to the train and often stop to snap pictures for I fear the masterpiece could blow away over night. Thanks for the life changing app Instagram (special little shout out to Kevin & Nicole) I have taken some of the most magical and breathing photos of my life. Filled with crisply bright leaves that you can almost hear crinkle as the camera pulls in its deepest shades. Sunrises that bleed purple and form a orange lush halo over the city as I ride the T across the Charles. I probably look like a tourist but I am simply obsessed.

Although I am fully aware this blissful season and radiant colors will soon disappear, I am obsessed with the season and magic that follows. November 1st kicked off the Starbucks red holiday cups (but I totally got a sneak peek because that's what you get when you go every single day and make besties with the baristas...) and that was simply the beginning of the most wonderful time of the year. I'd like to say I wait until Thanksgiving before I bust out the jingles but ever since I started living where it snows, I changed my holiday routine. Whatever comes first- snow or November- the jingles shall commence. That being said, after a Halloween snow dusting, I am obsessed with Michael Buble's Christmas album and suddenly the world is just that much better. Soon to come are snowmen and mistletoe, snowflakes and wreaths and the warming of hearts as we ride into Christmas night.

We're going out of order... but I'm obsessed with the fact that in just TWO weeks I'll be in California with the entire fam and the besties that are too far for comfort. I can smell the turkey, roasted veggies and pumpkin pie from my little Boston apartment and I can fear the 8am Turkey Trot that dreadfully follows the infamous Novato High reunion at the local bars but there is nothing that will stop be from making it back and indulging in every moment. Even though the pictures I order from the wedding just arrived today, July seems forever ago and I need my dose of California and all her wonder.

My final current obsession... One Tree Hill. I used to watch the show with my college roomie Erika (who BTW is engaged!!!) and then we stopped watching when the drama was so intense I actually had dreams about the characters... but Netflix has all the episodes so really what's a girl gonna do. I need to see what happens to Peyton, Lucas, Nathan and Haliey! And let me tell you (I'm on season 7 so really I've just been plowing through) I love being taken away to this imaginary place where my problems cease to exist and I swear Nathan looks like Kevin. (Oh side note- this might be one of those bad obsessions the websites were telling me about...)

So there we have it- I am living in obsession. From the colors, to the sounds, the feelings and the future, they're all positively overwhelming sensations that wrap me warm at night. May I keep my positive vibes high as the temperature drops below satisfaction and the vanilla twilight covers my delicious fall world. But until then, another round of soy pumpkin spiced lattes on me.

Monday, October 10, 2011

A Fearless Fall

Far too often fear gets the best of us. When tested by our biggest concerns or worries, the excuses come easier and self-compromises seem fairer. I think it truly takes someone to, in the kindest way, put you in your place and knock your fears right into your lap. No more hiding, no more excuses and no more fear.

I like to wear the fearless mask but underneath it all I have been ridiculously, childishly afraid of my future. Dare I admit that I like to talk the talk but as I glance at my past, I don’t see the walk. I see the talk and it’s time to back it up. (Yes I shall be my toughest critic).

Today, as I pitied myself and made the casual yet common complaint that I am currently “stuck” in my job, I was ever so graciously knocked out of a fantasy and dropped into reality. The realist revealed, "You only feel stuck because there is no one to tell you how to un-stick yourself.” She continued, "You have to carve your own opportunities and build and independently create yourself." There I sat- knocked off my fantasy wagon and thrown into reality. Honestly, in this career path, I have been waiting for someone to come along and tell me what to do. Tell me what job to apply for, what opportunity to grab and what chances to take. I was too afraid to ask questions about what my future could be and too afraid (and maybe lazy?) to test the waters myself and see what really is out there. Little did I know that all my answers would stem from questions I've been too afraid to ask.

We're on a self made time frame. Our big move is set for March/April and I saw this as a waiting period. A time for me to just sit and wait for someone or something to jump out and offer me that dream. Wrong!!! This time frame is now my chance to build myself up, learn as much as possible and create this portfolio so that my path is filled with experience and examples of pure determination. I thought the desire to succeed was enough but I need to personally put myself into drive. And so I'm ready.

Where does fear play into all of this? Fear was the reason I was waiting. Who wants to stick their neck out and have it chopped off and severed by the big bad boss? Who wants to give it their all and in the end only get a lesson and not a job offer? What I forgot, in the mist of all this fear, is that sometimes when the least expected happens and it's forseen as bad- it might not really be bad. A wise man (or woman because really this quote is anonymous to me) once said, "Barn burnt down, now I can see the moon" and I truly believe the foreseen bad can have good consequences. So here I go- what ever happens shall happen and I'll learn everything I can. I'll learn from mistakes and grow and develop them into something more. With my fearless mask off, I'm actually able to see and for the first time things are appearing with insane clarity.

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Young Grasshopper Reflects

Oh August, what a rush.

It seems we returned from the golden state and things quickly, yet naturally, began to take shape. With moving boxes stacked up against the wall, Joanna and I spent our final days giggling and reminiscing our journey throughout the year. The apartment grew bare as Jo set off to Colorado to return to her Rocky Mountains and I began to prepare myself for domestic living. Boxes and bedsprings were loaded into the UHaul as Kev and I made one, small perrywrinkle room into a home. Saying goodbye to my apartment wasn't as hard as imagined but rather a big leap forward. Of course, when we got to Kevin's and there were boxes upon boxes, I had a small panic but it's a relief to know we are nearly all unpacked and as Kev works on being cleaner and making the bed, I am working on relaxing and not being such a neat freak. (Oh so these are those moments where you realize you're actually in a big girl relationship)...

The domestic living is simply nothing short of magic. Everything seems easier, less stressful. I live with my best friend who also happens to be my boyfriend, we live in a hip side of town filled with delicious foods and activities and my commute to work is a much shorter T ride and yet a relaxing 20 minute walk in the morning. We have easily adapted to each other's space and need for personal time (we are both currently blogging next to each other yet I doubt he knows I'm writing about him) and when we no longer want to be independent, I reach out my hand and he's there. For the bad days and the good, he's there- to talk it out, listen and side with me even when I'm wrong. For the first time, in maybe shall I say ever, I really, truly do not feel alone.

Besides this sappy love story... things have been pretty smooth sailing. My Boston copilot and favorite older brother moved back west but I've decided it's okay to be the only Valentino this side of the Mississippi. Oh yes, and speaking of sailing, we actually got to go back on the MV Explorer (the ship I sailed around the world on for SAS) and spend an evening on board the ship of dreams! It docked in the Boston harbor and so we dressed in our finest and headed back to the place I once was so fortunate to call home. As we entered gangway deck 5, the same smells rushed throughout and every memory came flooding back. I could barely handle myself as we stormed the decks and I told Kev endless stories as we sipped on wine and dined on deck 6 by the pool. Sadly, just like the voyage, our night ended but I will forever be blessed to have step foot on that magical vessel again.

Work is... attempting to progress. I can't even find the words because there are few words that describe the situation but I am somewhere between real interviews and coffee dates and cold interviews and performance reviews. Confused? Me too but I've been told to be patient and so that's what I tell myself everyday. Just be patient and the universe will unfold.

So as August wraps up and the weather calms down (I mean come on a hurricane??), I am nesting in my new pad and awaiting life. Still stomping the financial district, Starbucks in hand and chasing the unknown dream but enjoying the ride. When the words filter out, my safe haven, this blog, will, of course, be the first to know. But until then, Godspeed in whatever journey you rest in and at the end of the day, just breathe and smile. And, of course, rinse and repeat as necessary.